Lean In – Don’t leave before you leave

I’m a Sheryl Sandberg fan although I haven’t met her and don’t know her personally.  I’ve listened to her TED talk with enthusiasm.  As a woman I appreciate how she’s advanced women in the tech field specifically (wow, Google and Facebook, nice work Sheryl).  Her new book Lean In which was spawned by her TED talk is compelling information for all young women and mom’s to young girls.  My favorite point is ‘don’t leave before you leave’.  I see this activity all too often.

To join my concern or rant let me catch you up on Sheryl’s point.  As an example Sheryl sites how a woman was concerned about being too aggressive in her career because she was worried that becoming pregnant at the time she would be considered for a promotion would cause conflict.  Therefore the woman was not going to be aggressive or pursue a promotion or project.  The irony or funny in the story was that this woman was not yet married or close to being pregnant.  The sad thing is she was cheating herself of time and her employer of her potential.

I’ve seen this much more when a coworker or worse one of my own team members has checked out.  They are so busy looking for the next job or new thing that they’ve displaced their energy away from the position they have now.  They wonder why one of their peers receives the cool assignment or special project.  When we are looking for the next thing and just working on the current thing we believe we can do both, and do them well.  The sad fact is the moment you displace your energy to do two things you are no longer available do your best on just one.

In the spirit of living in the moment and being present we can only give our all to one thing.  I’m old school and you can not listen to music and study – pick one.  As an employer, or  your mentor or your customer I want your focus and your best service.  Give it to me and you will be great.  You will be my hero for service, you will be my go to person in the office and you will gain from our coaching relationship.

How many bad jobs could be good jobs if we gave it our all in finding a solution or readjusting our attitude?  I plan every day to be ready to leave my company or get a promotion.  There will be no wrapping it up with a bow when I leave; it’s already done.  My files are well marked and maintained for anyone to utilize.  Calendars and plans are set for someone to step into or choose to rearrange things if I’m not there.  I owe that to my employer and for me that is what I’m paid for – my total engagement.  When an opportunity comes I’ll be ready and prepared to leave and start all at the same time.  I’m not going to leave before I leave.  But I’m ready.

Office Space says it all

Be engaged – it can change your life.  If not – leave already.